Tag: mental health
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Growing Pain
Growing up, ada sorang lady in my life ni yang selalu sangat cakap I bukan waris just because I’m a daughter instead of a son. It started lepas we all pindah Penang, when I was around 9 or 10. Before that, we lived in Tanjung Karang dekat family belah my mom, and I memang manja…
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Schadenfreude
If there’s one thing I wish I’d known when I was younger, it’s that not everyone is truly rooting for your success. Some think they are — but deep down, they find pleasure in seeing you go through a rough patch. I can’t pinpoint the exact moment I realised this, but it must’ve been sometime…
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Thanks for the Silent Treatment—I Needed the Silence Anyway
I once got the silent treatment. Was it in 2018 or 2019? I honestly can’t remember anymore. And all because I chose to be firm. At that time, we were already struggling financially. Just enough to cover our commitments—barely a cent more. Then, during what was supposed to be routine maintenance, my house was damaged…
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Why People Pleasers End Up Drained
One of the most important lessons I’ve learnt is this: it’s perfectly okay to say no when someone asks for a favour. In fact, you need to say no every now and then. Because here’s how it usually plays out: The first time you say yes, they’re grateful. The second time, it becomes expected. The…
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I Wasn’t Allowed to Cry
I wasn’t allowed to cry. When I first saw my mom — Lifeless, lying in the emergency room — I cried softly and whispered, “Liya tak sempat jumpa mak.” But he said I shouldn’t cry. I couldn’t cry. If I did, it meant I was against God’s will. If I did, it meant I didn’t…
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I Wasn’t Allowed to Cry
I wasn’t allowed to cry. When I first saw my mom — Lifeless, lying in the emergency room — I cried softly and whispered, “Liya tak sempat jumpa mak.” But he said I shouldn’t cry. I couldn’t cry. If I did, it meant I was against God’s will. If I did, it meant I didn’t…
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When Silence Becomes the Strongest Answer
Have you ever encountered someone who is not a close family or friend, neither a client — who gets triggered if they can’t send you a private message, or if you don’t reply to them? I have. IT.WAS.NOT.PLEASANT. When I didn’t entertain her private message, she went the extra mile to get my attention in…
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Trying to help my son navigate Silent Treatment
Here’s how I’m trying to help my son navigate this, to protect his emotional health, and preserve his self-worth. And at the same time to help him understand not to do this to others especially his future family. The cycle shall stop here. 1. Reassure my son: “You’ve Done Your Part” Since he’s already apologized…
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The Master of Manipulation (And How to Stop Them)
We’ve all seen it – the person who thinks they can get away with making others work for them. You know the one. The “bossy” type who doesn’t realize the world doesn’t revolve around their every whim. In fact, they think your time is basically theirs for the taking – and they don’t even feel…
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Rumah Untuk Alie
If I were Gianla, Alie’s mom, this movie would have turned into a horror genre instead of a melodrama. Because I would have crawled out from my grave to haunt—and teach a lesson to—those who bullied my daughter. But before I continue, fair warning: this review might contain spoilers. So proceed at your own risk.…
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