We’ve all seen it – the person who thinks they can get away with making others work for them. You know the one.
The “bossy” type who doesn’t realize the world doesn’t revolve around their every whim. In fact, they think your time is basically theirs for the taking – and they don’t even feel bad about it.
Picture this: there’s this one person, let’s call her Karen (because, why not?). She’s adamant about getting the other two people to do exactly what she wants. And I was there watching the whole thing. She doesn’t notice (or care) that they’re visibly uncomfortable with the situation.
The other two are professionals. They’ve got their own gigs going on and their own deadlines. But Karen? Well, Karen expects them to do her bidding – and she only wants them to do it… for free. Even though there are other people who could help her, she’s pushing the two because, apparently, they’re nice professionals who can guarantee the result that she wanted..
But Karen forgets something. They help others voluntarily. Not because she’s pressuring them to.
This right here? This is entitlement. And trust me, it’s way too common.
What’s it Called?
When someone keeps pushing their will onto others without considering the other person’s boundaries – or any basic human decency – we’re talking about entitlement. It’s that thing where they feel like the world owes them something just because they asked for it.
It’s when someone assumes their needs are more important than yours. They think their time is more valuable than yours. Their goals come first. And if they can get away with it, they will. They’ll keep pushing until you’re drained, stuck, and silently praying for a way out without blowing up on them.
I’ve had my share of people like this. And let me tell you, it’s not fun. My worst experience? Having a man demand I do everything for him, while at the same time, I get blamed for every mess up he makes. Classic, right? I’ve since maintain my distance from him.
Why Does This Happen?
We’ve all been there, right? Wanting to avoid confrontation, not wanting to be the one who makes things awkward. But there’s a point when you have to stand up and say, “No”.
Why do people think it’s okay to keep asking and asking, like you’re just there to serve them?
Well, there’s a few reasons:
1. Lack of Empathy: Some people just can’t read a room. They can’t see when you’re gritting your teeth or giving them the “please stop” look. They don’t get that you’re not a volunteer army. You’re a human with your own stuff to deal with.
2. Insecurity: Some push others around to cover up their own feelings of insecurity. They try to feel powerful by controlling others. It’s a “fake it ‘til you make it” situation, but they never quite make it. And so, they use you to feel better about their own mess.
3. They’ve Gotten Away With It Before: Some people just get into the habit of taking advantage because they’ve done it successfully in the past. They’ve pushed others around without any pushback. Now they think they can do it with everyone.
4. Entitled to Your Time: If they’re paying you for something, they might think that means they can have all your time. News flash: your time is valuable. Paying you doesn’t mean they can squeeze every ounce out of you. But they’ll try, because, hey, they’re paying, right?
How to Stop Them
This whole mess could’ve been avoided if Karen had just stopped for a second and thought. But nope. She’s not even trying to read the room. So now, it’s on you to take control.
1. Set Boundaries and Stick to Them: If you’re the professional here, don’t be afraid to say “no.” Politely but firmly. “Hey, I’d love to help, but I’m swamped right now.” No drama, just honesty.
But setting boundaries in personal situations? That’s a whole other beast. Especially if it’s someone close to you. They’ll probably call you rude, or selfish, or some other fun name. They’ll try to guilt-trip you. But hold your ground. Don’t let them manipulate you.
2. Use Your Body Language: Sometimes, words aren’t enough. If someone can’t take the hint, use your body language. Show them you’re not on board. And if that doesn’t work? Walk away. Distance is sometimes the only thing that can save you from losing your mind.
3. Don’t Feel Guilty: It’s so easy to fall into the trap of guilt. But let me remind you: you don’t owe anyone free work. Not because they’re relentless, not because they guilt-trip you. Your time, your energy, your work is valuable. So protect it.
4. Make the Case for Fair Compensation: If they want more than what they’ve paid for, make it clear that you’re happy to help… but for a price. Show some professionalism. Remind them that respect comes with a price tag.
It’s frustrating when someone thinks they can take advantage of your time. But remember, you’re in charge of how you’re treated. By setting boundaries and standing firm, you can put an end to this nonsense.
So next time someone like Karen comes along, or anyone who assumes they can use you without asking, don’t be afraid to speak up. Because here’s the truth: You’re not a robot. And you sure as heck aren’t working for free.
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