Have you ever encountered someone who is not a close family or friend, neither a client — who gets triggered if they can’t send you a private message, or if you don’t reply to them?
I have.
IT.WAS.NOT.PLEASANT.
When I didn’t entertain her private message, she went the extra mile to get my attention in a Telegram group, publicly demanding justification on why I didn’t reply.
Not only did she want MY justification, she also gathered supporters, and soon enough, they all jumped on the bandwagon, pushing me to answer her.
Downright psychotic behaviour.
This is how I imagine someone who tries to assert dominance and feels entitled to me actually looks like on the inside.
For someone like this, it’s never really about sharing a good message. It’s about dominance — the need to control someone else.
The thing is, if someone is not close to me and not my client, I have the right to not answer.
Lucky for me, she wasn’t on X, and Threads wasn’t around yet at that time.
Imagine if she had gone on X or Threads to plead her woes about not getting the attention she craves from a near stranger?
Like she actually did recently… to another person.
The thing is, what she didn’t know back then was that I had already blocked her on all my social media, WhatsApp, and even Telegram.
She carries this belief that she has the right to police everyone. And while it’s perfectly fine to have opinions — thousands of them even — it is not fine to force those opinions down someone else’s throat. But she didn’t, and still doesn’t, get this concept.
She genuinely believes she has the right to teach, educate, and impose her unsolicited views on anyone and everyone. And those who dare to fight back, or even quietly ignore her, will quickly get a taste of her ugly side.
She is not above using religion or cultural norms to gaslight, guilt-trip, and manipulate you.
I had enough of her. Cutting her off was not easy. Always soft-spoken, always ready with compliments (a little too much, if you ask me) — those who’ve never seen the darker side of her would easily mistake her as the epitome of an angel.
But I’ve seen both sides. And trust me, the mask slips fast when she doesn’t get her way.
And that’s the thing with people like this — they believe access to you is their right, not a privilege.
But here’s the truth:
I don’t owe anyone my time, energy, or emotional labour unless I choose to give it. Boundaries are not optional; they’re necessary.
When someone reacts violently to a simple boundary — like not replying to a message — that’s not your fault. That’s them revealing who they truly are.
It took me a while to shake it off, but the lesson is clear: people who guilt-trip you for not being constantly available are not people you want in your circle.
Because real friends? They respect your space.
Real clients? They understand your time is valuable.
It’s only the entitled ones who scream the loudest when you don’t give them what they want.
So next time you feel cornered by someone like this, remember:
Your silence is also an answer.
And sometimes, the most powerful one.
Aliyawanders 
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